How to Tell Someone You're Pregnant When It Wasn't Planned: 5 Tips for Sharing the News

If you recently found out you’re pregnant, and it wasn’t part of your plan, you’re probably experiencing a flood of emotions. You might feel shocked, anxious or unsure about what comes next. And one of the hardest things to figure out right now might be how to tell someone you're pregnant.

Whether you're sharing the news with a partner, a parent or a close friend, it’s normal to feel nervous or overwhelmed. But you don’t have to navigate this alone. Below are five helpful tips to guide you as you prepare for that conversation.

1. Take Time to Process Your Own Emotions

   You don’t have to tell anyone the moment you find out. Take a deep breath. Give yourself space to process the news first.

   
   

   Even if you’re feeling uncertain or scared, it’s okay to sit with those feelings before involving anyone else. This can help you approach the conversation with more clarity and confidence.

   
   

2. Choose Someone You Trust

   Think about who in your life can listen without judgment. This might be a close friend, a mentor or a family member who’s been supportive in the past. If you’re unsure how someone will react, choose a setting that feels private and emotionally safe for you.

   
   

3. Speak Honestly – You Don't Need All the Answers

   When you're ready to talk, you don’t have to explain everything or have a plan in place. Honesty is enough. You could say:

   
   

   • "I just found out I’m pregnant, and I’m still trying to process it."

   • "This wasn’t planned, and I’m not sure what I’m going to do yet."

   • "I need someone to talk to and wasn’t sure where to start."

     
     

   It’s okay to say that you’re still figuring things out.

4. Prepare for Different Reactions

   Sometimes the people we turn to for support are surprised, emotional, or unsure how to respond. Their first reaction may not reflect how they truly feel. It may just be shock. Remember, this is your journey, and their response doesn’t define your options or your worth.

5. Know That You're Not Alone

   Unexpected pregnancies happen every day, but your story is unique, and your feelings matter. If you’re not sure who to talk to or how to move forward, we're here to support you.

   
   

   At Pregnancy Decision Health Centers (PDHC), we walk alongside women every day who are navigating the same questions you may be asking right now. We provide a safe, compassionate space to talk through your pregnancy, your options, and your future.

   
   

Need Help Talking Through It?

We understand how difficult it can be to share unexpected pregnancy news. If you're unsure where to turn, start with us. We offer free, confidential support—no judgment, no pressure.

Call or text 614-444-4411 or schedule an appointment at PDHC.org.

You don’t have to do this alone. We're here for you.