Why is Fatherhood so important?
As you may have noticed, either from looking back at your own childhood or at our culture, America is suffering from a lack of Real Men and Fathers. Although we cannot change our past, we do have a say in our futures and the futures of our children. The following are some of the reasons why Fathers Matter:
Children in father-absent homes are five times more likely to be poor. In 2002, 7.8 percent of children in married-couple families were living in poverty, compared to 38.4 percent of children in female-householder families.
Only 13% of juvenile delinquents come from families in which the biological mother and father are married to each other.
Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse, mental illness, suicide, poor educational performance, teen pregnancy, and criminality.
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
Children from disrupted families are 20 percent more unlikely to attend college than kids from intact, two-parent families.
Loving our children starts with the personal choices we make before they are ever born. Start today, to build a Legacy that you and your children can be proud of!
If you’re a teen and you’ve learned that you are going to become a father, this could be a confusing time for you. It’s completely normal to have lots of different thoughts and feelings, and it will take a long time to get used to the idea of becoming a father. This guide will help you think through some of the issues you are facing.
When you find out you are going to be a father, you might feel:
If you’re having difficulty dealing with any of these feelings, it may help to talk with the woman carrying the baby (whether or not she’s your partner), because she may be feeling many of the same things. If you don’t have good communication with her, it may help to talk with a health care provider, parent/guardian, or another trusted adult.
You can help during the pregnancy:
- Communicate- Talk with the future mother of your child her about her feelings and fears – she may be having some of the same thoughts as you. Give her a chance to let you know how she’s feeling and spend time listening to what she has to say.
- Be sensitive to her physical condition and emotional needs by understanding that she may be moody or physically uncomfortable at times.
- Make it clear that you are in this together. Let her know that you want to be as involved in the pregnancy as possible. If she has not already done so, go with her to talk to her parents. It may also be helpful for you to go with her to her medical appointments.
- Attend childbirth and parenting classes.
- Plan Ahead- Think about the financial needs of raising a child and start saving money. Consider finding a part time job to help pay for child care expenses. Babies and children need clothing, food, and equipment such as a crib and stroller. When they are older they will have more expenses. Also, think about your career goals and whether or not you have to stay in school to achieve them.
Becoming a Father: Parenting Resources
All of your worries, concerns and fears about becoming a father are completely normal. The good news is that you aren’t alone, and there are resources out there that will help you get ready to become a great father.